[Absolut Speed]

My wife, who is just 29 years old, was diagnosed with breast cancer today (Thurs). She found a lump last Friday, had an examine Monday, a mammogram Tuesday and a biopsy today. She is scheduled to have a lumpectomy and more tests Friday at 6:30am.

This whole week has been one of misery in waiting. We kept telling ourselves that her odds were too small considering her age, but alas, she was part of that fractional percentage that are diagnosed in their 20's. So guys, make sure your wives, gfs, daughters are all keeping up with their checkups. We believe it was caught very early on, but we'll find out more tomorrow after they check the lymph nodes.

Worse, the doctor has told her she can't have children for 5 years due to the treatment, and that has just absolutely crushed her. Her parents are in shock and disbelief and aren't handling this too well. I've certainly got a lot on my plate.

[jensend]

I second the suggestion about being proaactive and getting educated both on the disease and the treatment options. As an 8 year survivor of late 3rd stage cancer I urge you to learn about diet, nutritional supplementation and herbal supplements. Many oncologists are now becoming more familiar with, and accepting of ,supplements as augmentation to traditional medical treatment. Listen to your doctors, but be certain to be as aggressive as possible in advocating for yourselves. There is a vast difference between treating a disease and living with a disease: do what you believe is best for the two of you. Sorry to hear that you are currently in the dark and uncertain place. Trust me, with a bit of courage and mutual support, that part of the problem will soon pass. Focus on each other and doing the things that offer the greatest opportunities for recovery and health. Please feel free to e-mail or pm me, if you need to talk or discuss any aspect of treament. Not a doctor or a woman , but I do have a good deal of personal experience to draw upon.