[Absolut Speed]

Chemotherapy sucks ass. I'm not sure which is worse... going through it or wathcing your spouse suffer through. (IMG:http://www.frrax.com/rrforum/style_emoticons/default/sad.gif)

[jensend]

Trust me, it was much harder for my wife to watch me go through it. While it may be difficult, try to be as strong and supportive as possible. One of the worst aspects of cancer is the worry and uncertainties one has about one's family and the impact of one's illness on them. Stress is a proven contributing factor in both susceptibilty and recovery. The more you can reassure her that you're ok the more she can focus on her own needs and recovery. Try to focus on the strengths of your relationship and on the things that you can each do to maintain and improve her health. You can't control what's happening on the cellular level. You can control how you approch dealing with treatment and your day-to-day approach to living. I wish you both strength and full health. If you need something to focus negative thoughts and energy on I'd suggest that nuturing a hatred of the disease is a useful outlet. It doesn't hurt anyone and it gives you a focal point for your anger and frustrations. It's the one hatred I openly admit to and encourage.

This post has been edited by jensend: Sep 17 2005, 12:51 PM